A great article was published this week about controlled crying and whether or not it works.
Originally published here.
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My favourite quotes from the article…
By the time my daughter was eight months old, I knew how he felt. On a good night she would wake three times; on a bad night, six. Until I had a baby, I had no real idea what a profound lack of sleep actually feels like. “Torture,” supplied my best friend, a doctor (and a mother). “It’s a recognised form of torture.”
Its good to know their are options!!!
There are varying degrees of severity along the controlled-crying spectrum. At one end is “extinction” (also known as “crying it out”), whereby you simply close the door on your baby and come back in the morning. In the middle are all sorts of techniques, where you return and briefly comfort your baby, usually with increasing stretches of time between visits – five minutes, 10, 15 and so on. Finally, there’s “adult fading” or “camping out”, where you remain in your baby’s room, but over many nights you move, in a kind of glacier-creep, towards the door.
We agree techniques outlined in these books take in our experience 6 weeks for success. Sleep deprived parents struggle with the small improvements and often give up using these techniques, this is why with our experience of thousands of babies we have our own no cry strategies, which take 1-2 weeks in total. The changes are fast and easy to see, and don’t require you to have the knowledge of a baby whisperer!
But what are your alternatives? Well, according to no-cry advocates like Elizabeth Pantley or Pinky McKay, you can co-sleep with your baby, or comfort them without letting them cry. But even the staunchest no-criers acknowledge that these methods take a long time, a lot of patience and require high sensitivity to baby behaviour.